Archive | June 2012

What do I recommend to a first time mom?

Things I learned after my first pregnancy/delivery/home coming experience…

First time moms often have so many questions for those who have “been there and done that” with the labor, delivery, and home coming process. One started an advice thread, and there were so many great bits. Here are some of my personal tips and some of my favorites mentioned.

It started with this thread on babycenter.com:   http://community.babycenter.com/post/a34434985/btdt_advice_thread

My advice (Yes we are getting REAL here people):

Read this entire post so that you can not only laugh, but have some great tips: dearbabyblog.com/post/4718750068/a-…

Vaginal Deliveries: Use the squirt bottle they give you from the hospital to clean your oh-so-tender lady parts… warm water feels best. Also use the witch hazel and dermoplast.– and take your Doc seriously about the waiting to have sex thing. It takes a while to get your groove back.

Trust your instincts. If you feel something isn’t right with you or your baby, call a doctor. If it turns out to be nothing or its normal- at least they gave you peace of mind that it is nothing to worry about.

TAKE STOOL SOFTENERS!! So you don’t have to push anything else out! A baby should be enough!   Also take the anti-inflammatory meds they give you. It’s just a higher dose of Motrin usually, but it really seemed to help.

Drink plenty of fluids. You’ll hear that a lot. It’s really true. 🙂

Have LOTS of breast pads handy for the first 2-3 days after you come home and your milk comes in!! Yowzah!!

Make a basket of granola bars/snacks, breast pads, extra burp rags, etc so that when you sit down to breastfeed you have all your things handy.

– And have a big bottle/glass/mug/cup of water, and your boppy or other pillow there too!

Nursing tank tops: You can make them! And for WAY less $!   Go to this site: thejensonjaunts.blogspot.com/2011/0…

Nursing: Use a safety pin or small hair clip to pin on the strap of your nursing bra. Pin it to the side you leave of with, so you can start on that side next time you breastfeed.

Know that your body will eventually look nice again. During that very hormonal week after birth I stood in the shower, looking at my body complete with GIANT breasts, stretch marks, and belly flab and just cried. Nothing felt or looked my own any more. My husband just did a lot of hugging during that time.

– Remember to give your spouse hugs too! It is important you two stay connected and united, and at times it is an effort.

TAKE PICTURES! Take sweet pics of your baby with every one you love. Especially parents/grandparents. I lost my grandfather when our daughter was less than a year. I still treasure the picture I have of him holding her as a baby.

Above all- Enjoy your precious baby. They grow so fast before your eyes. Stare at them, marvel at them. Soak up every moment.

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Smiles,

J

PS- Mamas out there–Please comment if you have any great tips to add from your own experience!

(These are just helpful tips,  no judgement here on any mom’s choices)

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36 week update

Another update:
I just got off the phone with Dr.B and she says it is another UTI!! I’m not totally crazy and my body will be feeling better soon!! They are going to keep me on antibiotics through the rest of the pregnancy.

Never thought I would be happy to say that, but knowing that I will be feeling better soon is good motivation & encouragement that I could do this another few weeks! God is so good!!

36 weeks and our adventures in Labor and Delivery

I made it. 36 weeks today! Against the odds that she would be delivered much earlier, I have officially kept this little girl baking for an additional 6 weeks! Most moms who pPROM are delivered via scheduled induction/c-section by this point– but my doctor wants us to keep going for another 3 weeks. We will see how that goes- my Sweet Pea seems to have a mind of her own!

This is me 2 weeks ago, out of bed for a few minutes to hug my sister-in-law and take a few belly shots after her shower (we are due 7 weeks apart!)

Starting on Monday evening and still continuing today I have been having off and on contractions, back pain, nausea, tenderness to my belly, and I’m oh-so tired but can’t sleep. I called the doctor yesterday (by doctor I mean my fill-in one (Dr.B) who works at the same office and agreed to take our case, not my regular OB (Dr.A) who I love and who is off having fun in Europe for 2 weeks– must be nice) but didn’t get a return call like I normally do, so later I called again and got a seriously NOT helpful response from Dr. B’s medical assistant, (via a call center person, as I never actually spoke to the MA)– “If you feel like you need to come in, then she says you should come in.” This did not go over well with me since it was: not an actual voice on the other end of the line, not addressing any of the symptoms that I had called about giving any helpful instructions, and NOT of any help so only making me feel worse! So after I stewed about it (and my husband encouraged me to) I called again. The MA had left for the day but they would put my message through again, stating that I needed instructions/guidance from the physician and they marked it urgent. Not 45 minutes later, I received a call back from my regular OB’s assistant– thank the LORD– because she knows me and my case. She saw my message, and discussed it with Dr. B, and was told I needed to go to L&D so they could check me out.

After rounding up the few last minute things I needed, as we are nearly all packed, and getting Jovie into the car and dropped of with her grandparents– we headed for L&D. I am a familiar person to the L&D wing at the hospital. After being in a car accident at 20 weeks and getting checked out (I was hit by a guy who ran a red light- car was totaled, baby and I were fine), then pPROM at 29.5 weeks and staying 4 days, then another trip to L&D a few weeks ago with similar “not feeling so good” symptoms that ended up being a UTI…  I could almost be called a “frequent flier”. –Can I get an upgrade?

We went through 4 hours of the same-ol’ thing. Pee in a cup, undress and put on a gown, strap you to a monitor, get all your information updated in the computer, wait for results, etc. So after doing all of it, and blood work– nothing is wrong with me. Baby looks great. But I still feel like garbage. So I had the option to stay overnight, or go home and feel like this in my own bed. We went home. A little deflating when you are thinking- maybe this time I’ll actually have a baby, and we will get to meet our precious Sweet Pea.

They did say that this sometimes happens as the body gears up for labor and that it could mean it will happen soon. We will see. So far nothing has gone how we thought it would with this pregnancy after having pPROM happen- just have to try to rest up and know it will happen eventually. It has to!

Isaiah 66:9

As always, we are thankful that she is doing great, and while the waiting is killer, at least I can wait from the comfort of my own bed and know that God is bigger than all of this and He has a great plan for me and for her.  Wondering if she will be a June or July baby? 🙂

Smiles,

J

Reflection of the past year, baby to toddler…

I just looked back through all the photos of my sweet baby girl over the last year, making a slide show for her 2nd birthday that is coming up.

Seeing her grow from age 1 as a baby who had just learned to walk, talk and explore the world around her- to an almost 2 year old toddler is amazing!

She is so big now, and can say so many words, do and understand so many things!

My husband and I constantly talk about how we remember our parents telling us, “it will go by in a blink” and scoffing at that silly statement. –No longer silly.

Here is a glimpse of the past year:

On her first birthday this was my baby girl, Jovie. She was just learning to walk.

              

At 18 months- One of my all time favorite pictures, complete with oatmeal up the nose!

Today- She will be two in just a few weeks. She is amazing.

                             

This morning when she was served her breakfast she said, “Thank you Daddy.”– Without being prompted with “What do you say?” (I was SO proud). YES!!

She totally melts me. This whole process of me being on bed rest and her having to be with a family member 5 days a week, has been rough on her too. I had just cut back my hours at work only 2 days a week, so was home for 5 days right before I pPROM’d and was put on bed rest…so this is pretty different for both of us!

We recently dealt with a couple weeks of “scared” at our house. Loud noises really seemed to bother her for the first time. Her room now has a night light, and we can’t close her door when she goes to bed. But thankfully, like most things with kids, it seems to be improving with time.

Best thing ever: She will sit in my bed sometimes after her bath and say, “nuggle me” (snuggle me)- so I do of course! She is such a sweet kiddo and so smart. My other favorite is when she asks to “see it” so I show her my baby belly, and she gives her baby sister a kiss or two… then blows raspberries on my belly til I giggle. And there are so many more things like this…

I am forever grateful for the blessing she is in our lives. This past (almost) year has flown by, but looking back at so many memories– I wouldn’t trade any of it, not for one second.

What a difference a year makes!!

Pinterest inspired Pregnancy/Mommy ideas

Pregnancy & Nursing tips 

from Moms who amaze me!

I have 25 days to go until I hit my 39 week mark. I have now been on bed rest for  41 days. Because we were all ready to go for an induction at  34 weeks… I now find I have less on my “To-Do” list. So I have been spending more time reading, browsing, and pinning on Pinterest. I love Pinterest because I constantly find other moms who are awesome, encouraging, and have amazing ideas in their blogs.They come from many different points of view, but these mamas are crafty, thoughtful, and make me laugh! Here are some recent favorites:


1. NURSING TANK TOP:

I found this idea online when I was looking for some maternity tank tops. I’m not a super big fan of the no-support nursing bras that I wore with my first daughter, and wanted something more like a real bra with padding, underwire, etc. Side note: (Yes it is my mission along with my mother-in-law’s to get women to wear a proper fitting bra. If you haven’t been fit by a specialist at Nordstrom or somewhere else besides Victoria’s Secret, please please go! There are so many good brands that are meant to fit your body and will make you feel so good about yourself!) So I wanted to find some tanks to go with them. I stumbled across this idea from Undercover Mama. They took a tank top and made it hook to your bra! Genius!

**DISCLAIMER: I am not selling this idea. I am simply sharing this idea on a public blog for free. Since this is not my idea, I am not selling it in any way.

Then my sister-in-law found something even better– a DIY version of the same thing!

http://thejensonjaunts.blogspot.com/2011/07/thrifty-fun-diy-make-your-own-nursing.html

I am definitely going to make these!I found a pack of 9 cami’s on eBay for $36 with free shipping– that makes each nursing top $4! Can’t beat that!

2. THINGS TO DO IN THE LAST WEEKS OF PREGNANCY:

This is a must-read for any moms-to-be! Whether you have had one before or not, this has a great list of laugh out loud things that are MUST have items and ideas! My faves are #9 and 10.  🙂

http://dearbabyblog.com/post/4718750068/a-candid-list-of-things-to-do-in-the-last-weeks-of

 3. GETTING INSPIRED TO LOSE THE BABY WEIGHT:

This working mom gained and lost her pregnancy weight. She is really funny, and very honest about what she did and how she lost her weight.

I recommend everyone reads this blog! She's hilarious and motivating! She lost 60 lbs in 5 months!  Pin now, read later

http://www.mamalaughlin.com/2010/08/just-girl-who-used-to-be-fat.html

4. GETTING ORGANIZED:

This mama with OCD tendencies has made over her trunk of her minivan with super smart ideas for her kids whether it is just a short trip or a road trip! Loved her tips and the pic!

Organized your car-kid style!

http://emcx3.blogspot.com/2012/06/junk-in-trunk-per-request.html

5. PRAYING FOR YOUR CHILD/CHILDREN:

I am a huge believer in the power of prayer. As a mom, I pray my girls will be healthy, know they are loved, and know the Lord. Plain and simple. This picture is a great reminder of many different aspects to pray for in our child’s life.

31 Biblical Virtues to pray for your children

http://keepingitpersonal.com/2012/02/pray-for-kids/

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I just want to say that I am so thankful to all the women in my life who inspire me, encourage me, make me laugh, challenge me, and love me for who I am. Thank you for being the awesome people that you are. I hope and pray that my daughters will know in me the best that I have known in each of you, and be that kind of woman to those around them and eventually to their own children.  Love to all of you~ JS

Proverbs 31 “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life….Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.”

Introductions

A little background…
The name of this blog is Princess and the Sweet Pea. Taken from the fairytale “The Princess and the Pea” about the girl who couldn’t get a good night’s sleep because her mattress was uncomfortable- the test of a true princess. As an almost 35 week pregnant lady on bed rest- I am the Princess, and my Sweet Pea is the amazing baby girl inside me who, yes, does make it harder to sleep sometimes.
Sweet Pea is also our nursery theme
My Story…
I was at home on May 12th, after a day of work, laughing at some of our favorite TV shows with my husband when I got up off the couch to use the bathroom. I wiped and was shocked to find large amounts of bright red blood on the tissue. All my worst fears started in that moment. It was 9:30pm, our almost 2 year old daughter was in bed, asleep. I called out to my husband, “I’m bleeding.” The tears started to well up in my eyes as I realized the severity of what was happening. I told him to call labor and delivery, then stopped. No, we need to call the doctor. We got the on-call exchange and told them I was 29 weeks, 3 days pregnant, and was having bright red bleeding. Once I stood up off the toilet I started to feel a tightening in my belly and something gushing. The doctor called back within a few minutes and she told us to go to Labor & Delivery (L&D), they would monitor me, and run some tests. My husband’s brother and his wife came right over and stayed the night on our couch. We called our family, and asked them to be praying for us and for our baby girl.
We rushed up to the hospital (a 25 min drive, and also where I work as a nurse), and were then checked in at L&D. The doctor came in, discussed things with us and did an exam. The tests confirmed that my amniotic sac had ruptured. I had pPROM’d- which means I had a preterm (less than 37 weeks) premature rupture of membranes. This occurs in 3% of all pregnancies. I was officially admitted to the hospital at this point. They ordered an ultrasound to determine where the bleeding was coming from. It showed that a large blood clot was lying at the bottom of my uterus. They told me that they felt the clot was from a placental abruption, and caused irritability in my uterus which caused my amniotic sac to tear. Placental abruption means the placenta, in a small area, pulled away from the uterine wall and started leaking– this is scary because depending on the amount of separation it can cause very severe and rapid hemorrhaging in a pregnant woman and result in emergency delivery of the baby in order to save the mother’s life. We were also told that they would start an IV, do blood work, place me on IV antibiotics and strict bed rest for the next 48 hours, and give me two rounds of steroid injections. Mother’s who have ruptured membranes typically deliver within 48 hours.
Mother’s day was spent in the hospital, as were then next 3 days (on a very uncomfortable mattress). After hearing that I would: deliver in 48 hours, have a c-section, have a preemie, have a baby  who would have to be in the intensive care nursery (NICU) for several weeks, and all sorts of other scary things… My bleeding slowed significantly, the baby and I were both stable, I had little to no contractions, and then they sent me home. Home with antibiotics to finish over the next 3 days, I would see the doctor in one week, and I had to stay on bed rest. I was 30 weeks exactly.
Flash forward 5 weeks… I am still on bed rest. I was told  at our 34 week visit that because I am doing so well that I will be on bed rest for another 30+ days with a goal of 39 weeks!! A blessing and a sentence at the same time. I am so amazed at how God has blessed us, and that we have been able to keep her strong and growing for an additional 5 weeks, but at the same time bed rest really takes a toll on a person mentally, physically and emotionally. Most mom’s who rupture as I did are delivered at 34-36 weeks due to the risk of infection and the decreased risk to the baby at that point who should have a short or no NICU stay after delivery. Staying in bed puts you at risk for other complications, such as blood clots; and makes you rely on every one around you for child care, meals, etc. It is a very humbling and constraining position to be in, and at times I feel like I am going crazy. I have an awesome husband, family and friends. They truly make a very difficult experience easier. This whole experience of pPROM and bed rest are not anything I would wish on some one- but God is with me, and if this is part of His great plan for me and for her then my prayer is that He would help me to bring glory to Him through this whole experience.
So, here I am to share my story with you. If I can bring a smile to you, or encouragement in any way, then I am doing what I hope to do.
“Just as you cannot understand the path of the wind or the mystery of a tiny baby growing in its mother’s womb, so you cannot understand the activity of God who does all things.”  Ecclesiastes 11:5, NLT